Oxytocin/Depression/Creativity

I think I figured out what is wrong with me. And that isn't a negative thought or a complaint. I'm happy that I think I figured it out! Because now that I can pinpoint the problem, I can resolve it!

Now, correct me if I am wrong, because..I love to learn. :)

Both men and women have the hormone oxytocin in their system. If you go on google and "define oxytocin" it will tell you that it has something to do with a female's uterus and breastfeeding and--Nope! Well, yes.....But that is not the only case.

Basically when we, both male and female human beings, are stressed, cortisol is dumped into our brains. A natural hormone to counteract that cortisol is oxytocin.
     Side note: The reason I suck at test is not because I have testing anxiety, specifically. It is because      I am anxious about being stressed, which in turn stresses me out, and cortisol can cause memory          blanks and forgetfulness. To me it always feels like tip-of-the-tongue phenomena, or I simply do        not recall anything when I definitely studied...So, my Psych teavher does not believe in testing            anxiety. Well, if you pair Anxiety to the Stress and Pressure that taking a test puts on                            you...BOOM. There's your testing anxiety.
Oxytocin is in both men and women. Men are pumped with testosterone, which all in all tells oxytocin to disappear. Which is why men can get stressed out by daily hassles more than women. Women, however, just have a few tricks up their sleeves in order to boost this hormone:

• Cleaning a lot
• Hugs
• Cuddling
• Talking (while someone actually listens)
• Hanging out in a group where they feel they belong, feel safe, calm, relaxed.
• Bonding (one-on-one hangout sessions)
• Etc. (The "girly" things that we chicks tend to do.)

But people, both men and women practice these frequently, which certainly explains why the participants seem happier, healthier, warmer, and stronger than those who don't practice these things:

• Meditation
• Yoga
• Exercise in general
• Creative arts (music, painting, sculptures, dancing, acting, photography, etc.)

With that said, before I move onto my blurb about Creative Therapy..

What is wrong with me specifically, I believe, is I have anxiety. I did not realize this until recently when I few people made some comments that I could very much relate to. (I always thought I was just crazy or depressed.)

My anxiety about people leaving me has to do with me losing my easy connections to my oxytocin boosts time and tie again. Women have more tricks to have these boosts whereas men do not [like to do these things; even think to do these things; admit to desire these things, too, so they brood by themselves]. So personally, I attach myself to these great groups of people where I feel I belong, where I feel connected and safe and relaxed whenever I am with them. And when I find these people, all I want to do with my free time is spend as much time as I can with them because oxytocin not only makes us all feel gewd insiiiiiide, but it balances out our stress levels from day to day.

So when people end up putting space between me and them, I lose that easy connection to boost my nervous system with oxytocin; I lose that easy connection to let go of that stress, to relax, to feel happy almost immediately. And with the absence of this "easy connection", I feel the opposite: I feel alone, sad, depressed, everything's about me and my problems (though I try to listen as much as I can to others and how they need to be listened to, too). BAD! Sooo Soo So SO bad. This is not good. This is not okay! Here I go time after time feeling sad and lonely and "depressed", when I'm not depressed, precisely, I've just been so used to a certain amount of a specific hormone running through my body that the absence of it has me squirming!

And I think (as long as I have still been on the correct track throughout all of this) that kids and most teenagers who go through school and are told by their doctors and families that "oh, they must just be depressed".....That the real case is THIS! I mean, clearly the absence of oxytocin causes some sort of depression in our bodies, but it isn't the same as being mentally ill with depression to where you need to take anti-depressants! People need to be told and understand about this hormone. As soon as they realize that maybe this is why they feel so blue at times...is the time they can pinpoint their problem, claim it as their own, and re-take control in their lives starting with how they view the new day.

Any thoughts? And ideas?

So. Now I'll blurb about Creative Therapy.

The reason creative therapy is a good idea is because all of these creative processes (music, art, dance, photography, writing, etc.) help reduce stress levels because they boost oxytocin.

When stress levels are lowered, people allow the mind to clean up, to balance, organize, prioritize and come to a self-realization about what they've been doing wrong, OR RIGHT, in their lives, and then are allowed to come up with solutions with what to do about this or that that has them stressed, confused, and mind-boggled.

Food for thought. Lemme know if I am entirely wrong on this.

I'm just....happy. :)

22:18.